My Wedding Vow to Myself and the World
Plus, a new Monthly Special on Clairvoyant Counseling! $50 sessions for the theme of the month. July is “Procrastination and Phone Addiction” *gulp*
I got married last month and being the nerdy theologian I am, I’ve thought a lot about what it all meant.
The first thing I’ve reflected on is the perfect timing of it all. I remember feeling lots of big feelings as I went through my early 20s and 30s and attended all my friends and family member's weddings. It was nearly impossible for me not to get caught in the comparison bardo, and to find myself lesser by comparison.
But the truth was, I wasn't ready before now. I needed more time to grow, to dive deep, to learn myself, to know my limits and boundaries, to discover my true needs and wants, and to be able to even fully show up to a relationship, let alone a marriage. I also needed to get sober and to offload a few toxic communities along the way, painful as that was.
And I needed to do all that to get ready for the person I just married. He’s extraordinary; funny, wise, kind beyond belief, spiritually luminous, and very very handsome. You gotta have all your spiritual ducks in a row to be with someone like that!
So when the big weekend came, I had the emotional wherewithal to pause and think about what I wanted it to be.
I'd heard - and was already beginning to experience - that the day was a whirlwind of seeing all your favorite people for a grand total of 3-6 minutes each. Instead of seeing that as a limitation, I wanted to see those precious minutes as an opportunity.
So the morning of the wedding I committed to saying only the most true, most loving, most powerful words I could to each and every person I spoke with, from the catering staff all the way up to my husband-to-be.
Luckily, speaking true, loving, powerful words is easy to do on a wedding day since that's kind of what the day is for.
I was so happy and grateful to see each person there and had no trouble telling them so. I spoke a lot of true, powerful words during the ceremony itself as did our officiants and my partner. I tried to include all the staff, photographers, equipment rental folks, and babysitters in that circle of sacred words as well. Even if we were just figuring out where to get more forks for the cake, I still spoke with love.
There's something about weddings that can really set the frequency for what comes after.
I stayed in this glow of sacred words the following week. And the week after. And even today I'm still finding beautiful feeling words coming out of my mouth, going into my texts and emails, and through the phone to all my clients and friends.
My husband (!!!) and I even had a few totally normal but hard discussions that somehow felt protected and surrounded by that covenant of kind words. We talked through some challenging things and still came out softer on the other side.
So I’ve begun wondering if all vows made that day - not just the ones at the altar - are still active. My husband and I turned to each other in the weeks after the wedding and would occasionally ask, “Does it feel different to you?” And the answer is yes, yes it does. In some subtle yet lasting way, things have changed. And the sacred words we promised to each other, ourselves, the gathered community, and Spirit Herself seem to be doing their work already.
So that's my invitation to you this week, as a blessing from my own wedding.
We have precious little time to speak in our short lives even though they seem very long. May each one of your words and thoughts be wrapped in the care of love, the shine of truth, and the presence of power. May we use our words to bless each other in each interaction, even if we're only saying, "Pass me a fork."
May all the work you've done to become the person you are today be in right timing so that your very actions and even your thoughts shine with the light of your holy self. And may love always find you at exactly the right time.
In Truth and Power,
Rev. Cindy
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MONTHLY SPECIAL - July is “Procrastination and Phone Addiction”
My teachers say when I give a healing I get a healing. And boy do I need some healing on phone addiction! We all like to joke we’re ‘addicted’ to our phones but I’m feeling kind of like I did before I got sober.
If you’re also struggling with phone addiction this month and want to work on this with me, book my new Monthly Special service for the (truly) ridiculously good price of $50 for 30 mins.
Here are the upcoming themes
July - Procrastination and Phone Addiction
August - People Pleasing and Self-Denial
September - Sleep Issues
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Spirit speaks in the language of pictures and though us humans need words to communicate, we can use those words to paint a picture of healing. This could include:
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Calling in blessings of particular kinds of light
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Artwork? Top image is Rev. Cindy and her new husband. Second image is unknown. Third image is by Moebius. Third image is me, I got married!
