Healing is Being Reminded of Wholeness

The word ‘heal’ comes from Old English and Norse meaning to make whole, holy, and well. The number of times I forget in a day that I am anything but whole, holy, and well is way too high to count. The reason? Probably the same as yours; we all live in a society that tells us lies about who we are. Those lies sound really attractive like; if you buy this you’ll feel better, do this you’ll look better, practice this you’ll sound better, read this you’ll love better and all your relationships will be fixed. The implicit meaning being that you’re not good and you need to get better right now.

These kinds of beliefs - otherwise known as a lie in your space - lead to all kinds of behaviors that lead to mental, emotional, spiritual, and sometimes even physical disease. Those behaviors might look like workaholism, alcoholism, numbing of any kind, sedentary lifestyles, causing stress in your personal relationships, fearing that the world is out to get you and fighting everyone and everything, or simply withdrawing from human contact in an effort to not feel inadequate. I know because I’ve done all these things and instead of making me feel better, instead of being convinced of my wholness and holiness, they’ve only made me feel worse.

Any good healer, counselor, or therapist will tell you that they can’t and don’t want to fix you, because you’re not actually broken. What we can do is remind you of how holy/whole you are, let the truth of that shine out and illuminate all the lies in your space, and then support you as you end your agreements with those lies.

For example, someone once told me I couldn’t sing and without even examining that statement I agreed to it and it became a lie that I allowed into my space. The result was that for years I never even attempted to sing; not at concerts, not in church, sometimes not even in my own car alone.

And then one day someone told me that I might be more persuasive singing than speaking. Now, for a preacher this is astounding to hear but the mere suggestion allowed me to examine that lie from long ago. I started singing in my car. I sang a car song outloud among a group of intimate friends.

Then I learned more songs and sang in more groups. My partner heard me singing more often at home and bought me singing lessons. The first few lessons I heard “Your note is flat, let’s try again. Your note is sharp, let’s try again.” I graduated to new teachers and in our first lessons they began to say things to me like “You’ve got great vibrato” and “You can obviously match pitch well so let’s try something more advanced.”

A few weeks ago I was having dinner with a musician friend of mine and we were recording samples some of my musical instruments, all of which are cleeverly designed so you can’t hit a wrong note. He tried laying down a beat on top of the sample and I realized I had a song that would fit and so I sang it into his microphone and recorded my first song. The lie in my space was no more. I was reminded of my wholeness and holiness and now no one can ever tell me again that I can’t sing. Well, they can tell me but I’m never going to agree with it.

This is what healing can look like. The lies we’ve agreed to - I can’t sing, I’m not strong, I’m always a victim, I’ll never heal, I’ll always be addicted, no one will ever love me for me - can be examined and uninvited from our space . And this is what I do in my healings with people.

I listen closely to their story, especially beliefs that don’t have the ring of truth to them. Then together we examine those beliefs and see if something more true fits better. I’ll look at the psychic energy of what’s going on for my clients and then of course I sing. Why singing? Because singing healed me and my singing teachers reminded me that every person loves to have their song sung back to them. So that’s what I do, listen to your truth as it really is - not as the lies are telling you you are - and then sing that truth back into your body and energy and heart and mind. I remind your body and all the places it hurts of just how beautiful and luminous it really is. I know, sounds pretty woo and out there but the miracles I’ve seen with this kind of healing have made me a believer and it’s my great pleasure to offer it back to you.